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Strengthening Relationships
Strengthening Relationships
Communications |
" We've all had times with our spouse or even very good friends where conversation dragged. We went away feeling drained or frustrated .Fortunately, we have also had time with our close friends or spouse when conversation was very satisfying. The time flew by as we talked.We have met people that we could not converse with at all, while meeting others where conversation "clicked. They were easy to talk to.Why? " |
| Know Your Communications' Style | |
| Hear What People Are Really Saying | "Listening is one of the most important skills you can have. How well you listen has a major impact on your job effectiveness, and on the quality of your relationships with others." |
| Learning to Listen | "Failure in communication is a common cause of discontent in relationships. Indeed, our generation has seen a spate of therapies, training, and programs of all kinds geared to assisting couples, families, and businesses in learning how to listen. " |
| Are you REALLY Listening? | "Most of us do not realize the importance of listening as a communicative tool. Yet studies have shown that we actually spend 50% more time listening than we do talking. We often take listening for granted, never realizing that it is a skill that can be learned. " |
| Effective & Assertive Communication | Are you clear with what you say? Are you able to say NO when needed? Do you use "I" statements to convey thoughts and feelings? Do you plainly request expected behavior to meet your needs?” |
| Communicating as a Couple | “Problems within a relationship typically begin when people resist stepping back and taking a long look at themselves and the role they play. If a person does not learn how to step back and reflect on themselves, relationship problems always tend to escalate and communication between the couple will continuously falter. “ |
| Are You Saying? | “Make sure you hear what your spouse really means.” |
| Talking With Your Spouse | “Issues related to finances, like issues related to sexuality, are often difficult for spouses to effectively communicate about.” |
| Communication Tips For To Use With A Spouse | “The spousal communication at baseline was related with succeeding family planning use, independent of movement contact.” Includes a huge list of articles on this topic. |
| Relationship Breakdown Signs & Signals | “Occasionally, relationships break down without any apparent sign that there is something wrong - sometimes one partner chooses to leave for reasons they never share. However, in the majority of cases the breakdown of a relationship is more gradual with clear signs and signals along the way.” |
| “Deciding if a relationship or marriage is ‘worth the effort’ can be an extremely difficult thing to do. You are probably feeling angry, disgusted, or even repulsed. It takes time to sort out your thoughts and feelings, and it probably will take a while. There are a few things, though, that may help you make this tough and possibly life changing decision.” | |
| Marriage and Relationships | |
| A Good Fight May Keep You And Your Marriage Healthy | "When both spouses suppress their anger at the other when unfairly attacked, earlier death was twice as likely than in all other types." |
| How to Build a Love That Lasts | Links to a collection of articles that may assist in understanding relationships. (Be sure to use the "Older Entries" link.) |
| Relationships of Marriage: Keeping It Together | "All people are not perfect, this is a well-known fact. So it only goes to show that because people are not perfect, their relationships cannot be perfect either. We imperfect human beings tend to forget this important fact at various times in our lives, especially when we are in lovewith another imperfect human being and we intend to marrythem. We unrealistically expect our relationship, our marriage, to be perfect, or near to it. " |
| Protect Your Marriage and Relationships | From Oprah.com. News and informative articles. |
| Relationships And Marriage Are About Being Connected. | A collection of articles about commitment in a relationship. |
| Secrets to Long-Lasting Marriages | "Sunrise Senior Living , one of the largest providers of senior living services with more than 450 communities worldwide, shared the results of a recent survey conducted among couples who have been married 50+ years " |
| Building a Strong Marriage—Finding Time | “With today's busy lifestyles, there are many demands for a person's time. Work, family responsibilities, community involvement, and time for self make it difficult to juggle these different roles. With this multitude of demands, many couples may have difficulty finding time to spend with their spouse.” |
| Our Relationship.... Making It Stronger | “Try to explain your expectations in plain language. This communication will strengthen your relationship.” |
| Tips for Relationship Success | “Take on the idea that love and marriage are skill-based propositions. Like most things of high value, it takes effort and mindfulness to achieve. Do not think that love just keeps going without any attention. “ |
| To Do List For A Good Relationship | “Experienced marriage and relationship counsellors have identified a number of components that are important to successful long-term relationships for couples.“ |
| The Perfect Family | “Is the family you grew up in different from the ones that exist today? Is your family different from the ones you see on television? The answer is probably yes to both of these questions because so much has changed in the American family and so much was always myth about the way family was portrayed vs. the way it really is.” |
| Relationship Strengthening Approaches | “Whereas communication and soothing approaches help couples to work through their conflicts, relationship strengthening approaches help couples to strengthen the bonds that hold them together in spite of conflicts. As such bonds get stronger and are expressed more frequently through positive interactions, it becomes easier for couples to commit to the work and compromise needed to resolve their differences.” |
| Relationship Breakdown Signs & Signals | “Occasionally, relationships break down without any apparent sign that there is something wrong - sometimes one partner chooses to leave for reasons they never share. However, in the majority of cases the breakdown of a relationship is more gradual with clear signs and signals along the way.” |
| Dealing with a Jealous Husband | "Jealousy is relating to insecurity and fear, it is also about control. If your partner has a fit each time you want to go out with your co-workers after work or spend time with a friend then this could lead to some extremely serious problems, including spousal mistreatment and altercations between your partner and your friends." |
| Are Negative Thoughts Ruining Your Relationship? Change Them Now! | "If you tend to walk around thinking about the worst aspects of your mate, you will probably mostly experience just that." |
| When Your Spouse Has a Ghost | “If you're married to someone haunted by a prior marriage, here's how you can help.” |
Lengthy article divided into chapters. |
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| Tools for Anger Work-Out | |
| 15 ways to say "I'm sorry" | "Do you need to apologize?" |
| Anger-obics Can Make Anger 'Work Out' | "Anger-obics is not a crazed form of cardio engendered by being cut-off on the freeway, opening the credit card bill, or being unjustly accused by the boss. It's a set of techniques to defuse your anger and help you find a creative solution to the "flashpoints" we all encounter every day." |
| How to Work Out Arguments With a Loved One | "The fact that you accept that your anger is a problem, is a very good starting point. " |
| Healthy Way to Let Out Your Depression and Anger | "Depression and anger both are conditions of mental state of a human being. Both of these disorders are dangerous for overall health conditions of human being." |
| Anger | "Given that anger is a human reality, what help can psychology offer in learning to cope with it?" |
| An Introduction to Anger Management | “Angry people are capable of great violence. However, while anger can certainly be abused, it is more than a simple destructive force. Anger is also a critically important part of what might be called the self-preservation and self-defense instincts.” |
| Dealing with Anger in a Marriage | “Though anger is one of the most common emotions known to the human race, few people are skilled at reacting to this feeling with complete effectiveness. Many of us rely on a few specific responses that we learned as children and continue to use as adults. These responses can turn into constructive or destructive behavior. Recognizing what makes us angry can help us find better ways to cope with this emotion. It's not whether we get angry, but what we do with our anger that matters.” |
| Anger Counseling | “Usually this counseling format is called "Anger Management"; I would suggest that you may want to do more than just learn how to manage your anger.” |
| Irritating Habits | "Squeezing the toothpaste tube from the middle and leaving the toilet seat up have become the classic examples of irritating habits that frequently provoke rows between couples. However, there are other irritating personal habits likely to cause rows between couples." |
“Conflicts grow out of our uniqueness. The goal of conflict resolution is not to rid ourselves of our differences. The goal is to learn to work together as a team, using differences to make life better for both of us.” |
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| Solving Conflicts without Arguing | |
| The Fastest Road to Forgiveness | “Have your apologies often fallen flat? Do your spouse's apologies connect and motivate you to forgive? Or are you married to someone who seldom apologizes?” |
| Handling Conflict | What behaviors help in managing conflict? |
| Negotiations | "Negotiations are part of all relationships. Friends, family, spouses, lovers, co-workers all negotiate and compromise." |
| Manage Anger for a Healthy Life | “Everyone gets angry on occasion. The trick is to manage anger in such a way that positive, not negative, actions are mobilized.” |
| Arguing Is Pulling Us Apart | “When couples handle their differences badly they typically end up throwing "hand grenades" at each other. In other words, they do everything that is unhelpful in terms of resolving their differences and inevitably end up fighting, or worse.” |
| Handling Guilt | What is guilt and how can you overcome this feeling? |
| “The word sorry isn't an admission of a wrong. While it can mean we did something, it doesn't convey the feeling that the action was wrong. Sorry can mean, "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "I'm sorry you took it that way." This, too, fails to admit the wrongness of the action. It can also mean we're merely sorry we got caught. That's not an admission of wrong either. It's much easier to say, "I'm sorry," than it is to acknowledge the wrongness of the things we've done.” | |
| Don't Say You're Sorry | |
| 'I'm Sorry' Just Isn't Enough | “When someone has disappointed us over and over and we've lost trust in that person. We just seem to put a question mark in front of everything they say or do.” |
| How to Stop the Arguments | “Your partner is not your enemy.” |
| Apologizing: Going the Extra Mile | "Who is the apology really for — is it for you or for your spouse? Are you going through the motions of being sorry just to appease your spouse, so that you can go on with your life in a less stressful way? Or is your apology a true expression of sorrow to the point that you are willing to go the “extra mile”?" |
| Apologizing When We Hurt Our Friends or Partners | "In every relationship there will be occasional misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Sometimes we are the one who hurt another person we care about; sometimes we are the one who has been hurt." |
| The Importance of Apologizing & How To Do It | "People often get so caught up in their own way of seeing things that they can't even muster an apology for simple offenses like leaving the cap off the toothpaste or forgetting to take out the garbage." |
| Write An Apology To Your Spouse | "I realized long ago that my marital survival would depend on two things: 1) learning to apologize and 2) becoming less selfish and more considerate." |
| Why It’s Difficult for Some Spouses to Apologize | "Some individuals can say “I’m sorry” easily while others can’t ever seem to choke the words out. When a spouse is reluctant to apologize, the partner inevitably ends up carrying emotional baggage from the resulting hurt feelings, resentment, and anger." |
| Six Steps to A World-Class Apology | "In individual psychotherapy and especially marriage counseling, I am often called upon to help people apologize to a spouse (or other loved one) whom they have hurt." |
| Apologizing When You Feel You've Done Nothing Wrong | "Acts of apology are right up there with acts of kindness." |
| "ThirdAge Inc. is a leading online lifestage media, marketing and consumer insight company exclusively focused on serving today's dynamic population of adults in mid-life who are intent on living life to its fullest, and marketers who want to build genuine and lasting relationships with them. Generally in their early 40s through late 60s." | |
| Relationships and Sex | |
| A Healthy Sex Life — At Any Age! | "No men or women over the age of 50 would argue that their sex life is just the same as it was when they were 20. Maybe it’s better. Maybe it’s worse. But either way, it’s bound to be different." |
| Sexual Behavior Among Older Adults | "The first comprehensive national survey of sexual attitudes, behaviors and problems among older adults in the United States has found that most people ages 57 to 85 think of sexuality as an important part of life and that the frequency of sexual activity, for those who are active, declines only slightly from the 50s to the early 70s." |
| Sex & Romance | "Sex is a key part of most relationships yet is a conversation topic some of us shy away from with partners. Raised not to discuss sex because it is an adult topic, we may find sex embarrassing and difficult to talk about when we reach adulthood." |
| Sex & Relationships - News & Features | From WebMD |
| Sex & Relationships | From Men's Health Magazine |
| Sex & Relationships | "TheSite.org aims to be the first place all young adults turn to when they need support and guidance through life. We believe all young people have the capacity to make their own decisions and life choices, provided they have access to high quality, impartial information and advice. We don't tell anyone how to lead their lives - we just believe everybody should have all the information they need to make their own decisions." |
| Relationships/Sex | From Dr. Phil |
| Sex...with a Side of Diabetes | "I can't compare sex with diabetes to sex without diabetes. On the cusp of my twenty-first year with type 1, there's not much of my life that I've lived without diabetes." |
| Sex and the Senior | “Sometimes we forget that the people who are now our revered elders once lived full, robust and sexually active lives.” |
| Sexed-Up Seniors Do It More Than You'd Think | "An unprecedented study of sex and seniors finds that many older people are surprisingly frisky — willing to do, and talk about, intimate acts that would make their grandchildren blush. That may be too much information for some folks. " |
| SEX in Later Life | "The sexual role models that we conventionally see are 18- to 30-year-old people. We seldom have a picture or vision of 60-, 70-, 80-, or 90-year-old people enjoying sex. Society in general and particularly the medical community is guilty of assuming that when you retire from your job, you also retire from your love life and your sexual life." |
Surviving Relationships
Surviving Relationships
Common Problems |
“Relationships are constantly changing; they may include perfect moments but in a sustained relationship there are many highs, lows and lengthy plateaus. Even in strong partnerships there will be times when changes happen and you may hit rockier patches.” |
| Common Relationship Problems | |
| Surviving a Financial Crisis | "“Talk to each other. In most cases—and especially where finances are concerned—two heads are better than one. Find a time when you and your spouse can sit down, discuss your money, and set up a workable plan for emergencies”" |
| Codependence | “Codependent behavior will often be at the root of relationship problems, and will impact your overall satisfaction in life. This is because the thought process of codependency is very deeply integrated into your self concept and level of self esteem.” |
| Passive Aggressive Behavior | “Passive aggressive behavior expresses negative feelings, resentment, and anger; and it does so in an unassertive passive way” |
| Handling Guilt | What is guilt and how can you overcome this feeling? |
| Relationship Breakdown Signs & Signals | “Occasionally, relationships break down without any apparent sign that there is something wrong - sometimes one partner chooses to leave for reasons they never share. However, in the majority of cases the breakdown of a relationship is more gradual with clear signs and signals along the way.” |
| Addictive Behaviour | "Addictions to or dependency on drugs, alcohol, dieting, food and gambling by one or both partners puts a strain on a relationship by creating extreme situations and lack of balance." |
| Marriage Survival After Losing a Baby | "Losing a child affects parents in many ways. Survival skills are needed to keep your marriage strong after losing your baby. We'll look first at the differences between husbands and wives, then discuss some of the dangers to be aware of and include suggestions for successfully surviving the natural differences between a husband's and wife's grief and the dangers which arise after loss." |
| Irritating Habits | "Squeezing the toothpaste tube from the middle and leaving the toilet seat up have become the classic examples of irritating habits that frequently provoke rows between couples. However, there are other irritating personal habits likely to cause rows between couples." |
| Common Marriage Problems, Loss of Intimacy | "It is amazing the number of couples that allow the intimate side of their relationship slide. Loss of intimacy is one of those common marriage problems that eat away at the very foundation of a marriage turning what was once a loving and fulfilling relationship into nothing more than a shell." |
| Common Marriage Problems | "Marriage is the most beautiful relationship that happens to everyone at some point of time. But, we people, because of our immature attitude and impatience, fail to keep the spark of married life alive." |
| Avoiding common Marriage Problems in your Conflicts | "Common marriage problems that most couples face often have to do with how a husband and wife manage their conflict. If you and your spouse can learn to argue in a way that avoids certain "deadly toxins" that can poison your communication, you can avoid some of the most common marriage problems." |
| Three Common Problems in a Marriage | "There is no 'perfect' marriage. But there are many couples who have managed to work through their differences and keep their marriages vibrant and alive. " |
| If you face violence in your relationship please get help immediately. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for immediate, confidential advice from a professional: 800-799-SAFE (7233) or 800-787-3224/TDD. |
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| Abuse: An Introduction | “Abuse occurs when people mistreat or misuse other people, showing no concern for their integrity or innate worth as individuals, and in a manner that degrades their well being. Abusers frequently are interested in controlling their victims. They use abusive behaviors to manipulate their victims into submission or compliance with their will.” |
| Are You Being Abused? | "Respect is another word for love. You deserve respect in a relationship and should leave any relationship where respect is not shown." |
| The Signs of Verbal Abuse | “Verbal abuse is a form of domestic violence and often is a precursor to physical violence. It can be difficult to recognize verbal abuse and often excuses are made for it. Understanding what constitutes verbal abuse is explained here.” Four parts: Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 |
| Abusive Relationships | "Abusive relationships are characterized by extreme jealousy, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, raging, sexual coercion, infidelity, verbal abuse, threats, lies, broken promises, physical violence, power plays and control games." |
| Abusive Love | "Abusive people believe that conflict, arguing, controlling, and emotional outbursts are what life is all about. They believe that it is, in fact, life. But it is not. You do not have to live with roller coaster emotions or feel like you must guard your words or walk on egg shells. You can take control of your own feelings and the way you communicate without trying to control the other person. So let's get started." |
| Emotional Abuse | "Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control and subjugate another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion, manipulation etc. Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as repeated disapproval or even the refusal to ever be pleased." |
| Symptoms of Emotional Abuse | "Many women assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, then they're not being abused. That's not necessarily true. You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you -- you might not have recognized that your partner has eroded your self-esteem and happiness." |
| Understanding Mental and Emotional or Psychological Abuse. | "A common form of emotional abuse is "I love you, but..." That sounds so sweet, yet it is both a disguised criticism and a threat. It indicates, "I love you now, but if you don't stop such-and such, that love is of short duration."" |
| Domestic Violence | “If you find yourself in a relationship that involves physical abuse, verbal abuse, threats or other types of attempts to control your life or freedom, this is not a safe relationship to be part of at this moment.” |
| Domestic Violence | "Domestic violence has long been a hidden crime - something that families coped with because they felt too ashamed to talk about it or could not find the help they needed." |
| Articles related to "Verbal Abuse Help" | Collection of articles |
| Breaking the Cycle of Abuse | "In some cases, an adult survivor won't repeat abuse his children or other victims, but instead will turn the anger and frustration inward and become depressed." |
| Breaking the Anger/Abuse Cycle | " Understanding
the anger/abuse cycle is the first step toward breaking the cycle." |
| Ending Abuse in Intimate & Family Relations | Collection of articles |
| Step Off the Jekyll and Hyde Rollercoaster: Ending Emotional Abuse | "Here are some steps everyone in a controlling/ abusive relationship can take...." |
| Planning a Safe Escape from an Abusive Marriage | "Ultimately, you know your situation and if you're being abused professionals will help you recognize the abuse and help end it. Abuse has many faces; don’t' be fooled into thinking it's okay." |
| Emotional Abuse During Separation and Divorce | "Separation, divorce and emotional abuse usually go hand-in-hand. The dissolution of marriage, and entering the family law arena can bring out the worst in a person." |
| How to Overcome an Abusive Marriage: | "Those of us who deal with physical abuse in marriage (beating a spouse) are faced with the reality that it doesn't start with bloodshed. It usually starts in a much more benign form -- rudeness, insensitivity and thoughtlessness." |
| Recognizing and Dealing with Abuse in Marriage | "Abuse rarely starts within the marriage relationship. In one form or another, the abuse most of the time begins during dating and courtship. One partner begins to assert their will over and above the will of the other. While this may not smack of abuse to most people, this struggle for power lays the foundational work for abusive behavior." |
| Break the Cycle | "At Break the Cycle, we believe everybody has the right to safe and healthy relationships—regardless of where they live, who they are or what they believe. That is why we work everyday towards our mission to engage, educate and empower youth to build lives and communities free from domestic violence." |
| Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence, Domestic Abuse | "Dr. Jeanie Beinour guest, who is a licensed psychologist and specializes in abuse, trauma, and family problems will be discussing and answering questions dealing with domestic violence and domestic abuse and how to become free from the cycle of abuse." (May take a while to load) |
| “The need for trust arises from our interdependence with others. We often depend on other people to help us obtain, or at least not to frustrate, the outcomes we value (and they on us). As our interests with others are intertwined, we also must recognize that there is an element of risk involved insofar as we often encounter situations in which we cannot compel the cooperation we seek.” | |
| Trust and Trust Building | |
| Ten Destructive Habits That Demolish Trust | “There are 10 destructive habits that you should stay away from if you truly want to rebuild the trust in your relationship and make it thrive again.” |
| Building Trust | “Why do people have trouble developing trust in others?” |
| 10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship | “When do seeds of suspicion emerge? When one begins to think, What's up?” |
| Building Trust in a Relationship Again | “Trust is the foundation for intimate, secure and successful relationships. It must be earned and maintained with consistent actions.” |
| How to Build Trust in Marriage | "Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife. Trust is something that can be cultivated and nurtured if you will follow the guidelines below." |
| Tools for Building a Great Marriage | "Building a marriage is much like building a home. You put deliberate plans in place and then you actively pursue the construction. Day to day busyness must be guarded against and the building must be conscious. When building stops, status quo settles in. Having a deliberate eye on construction can keep building fun and productive." |
| Rebuilding a Broken Trust | "One of the hardest things to do in your marriage after lies, broken promises or infidelity invade your relationship is to rebuild your trust." |
| “Extramarital affairs, infidelity, betrayal or adultery don't have to mean the end of your relationship or marriage. Surviving infidelity in your relationship or marriage can actually be easier than you might think.” | |
| Affairs & Infidelity | |
| Surviving an Extramarital Affair | “Adultery is a heart-breaking betrayal, whether it's emotional cheating or physical intimacy with another person. Here are five steps to surviving an extramarital affair.“ |
| Infidelity | “Infidelity can range from a one night drunken mistake to a long term, planned and calculated affair. Infidelity doesn't have to mean the end, but is likely to have a long term impact on your relationship.” |
| Surviving Adultery: How to Survive and Overcome Adultery | "Adultery is devastating to any marriage, regardless of the circumstances under which adultery might have occurred. Unfortunately, adultery is all too common is the cause of pain and anguish to many couples." |
| 15 Steps to Surviving an Affair | “Healing from infidelity is hard, painful work; both of you must be committed to repairing the damage, rebuilding trust, and reconnecting. On the agenda: The unfaithful spouse must be willing to stop the affair, provide all details honestly and completely, and take the steps necessary to prove his or her trustworthiness.” |
| After the Affair | “Finding out your partner is having, or has had an affair is one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. It is a demoralizing and painful experience.” |
| How to Survive an Affair - Take Care! | “Surviving an affair can be a very traumatic experience. Partners tend to know which strings to pull to antagonize the situation especially if there are children involved.” With links to related articles. |
| "Most younger adults anticipate that between their late thirties and their early fifties a day will come when they suddenly realize that they have squandered their lives and betrayed their dreams.’ | |
| What Is A "Midlife Crisis | |
| Surviving the Midlife Crisis | How do you recognize a midlife crisis? What are its symptoms? According to "New York Times" Editorial Page Editor Howell Raines, "it typically begins with mild twinges of dread, disappointment and restlessness that tiptoe in on little cat feet. Then in some cases, the cat feet turn to elephant feet." |
| Midlife Crisis, Stress and Depression | “Midlife Crisis is a natural process (first identified by the psychologist Carl Jung) and it is a normal part of 'maturing'.” |
| Midlife Metamorphosis | “This series of Midlife Web Pages provide maps as general orientations to midlife. If you are to take the midlife journey, you need to know the terrain, understand the destination, and have a goal in mind.” |
| Midlife Club | “At middle age, starting around 35 or 40, the reality of time running out, as evidenced by physical aging, the onset of serious illnesses and even the death of family and friends, can start both men and women on a frenetic journey of self-discovery and re-evaluation of their life’s goals.” |
| Mid-Life Crisis | "Middle age is a peak period for divorce. Mid-life crises may affect both men and women causing relationship problems resulting in relationship breakdown." |
| Signs of a Midlife Transformation | "This article is a quick introduction and a list of signs to help identify midlife crisis for yourself or someone you love." |
| 8 Warning Signs That Your Man Is Having a Midlife Crisis | "More than half of respondents to a recent poll on Notmuch.com, a Website produced by Wisconsin Public Radio, said that the midlife crisis is a "very real, gut-wrenchingly depressing experience that we all go through at one time or another."" |
| Midlife Crisis: The Straight Scoop | "Midlife crisis is a mental condition that affects many males around the midpoint of their lives (usually somewhere between the ages of 35 and 50). It affects women, too, but as far as we have been able to tell, more men are affected than women. (Then again, maybe women just complain less and handle it better.)" |
| Midlife Crisis: Transition or Depression? | "The term crisis often doesn't fit, mental health experts say, because while it can be accompanied by serious depression, it can also mark a period of tremendous growth. The trick, of course, is to realize when the transition is developing into depression so you can get help." |
| Helping your Spouse in Midlife Crisis | "When your spouse is going through a midlife crisis its tough to lead life happily without any hassles, but wouldn't you be better off trying to understand? A mid-life crisis is often called a second puberty in which an adult tries to recapture his or her youth by behaving much like a teenager. There are many reasons why this occurs in older adults, but here are a few tips on helping your spouse through a mid-life crisis." |
| “People often ask how to choose a therapist that best suits their situation. Most people seek counselling at a point of great need. Finding a counsellor can be as hard as making the decision to see one. The difficulty is knowing which counsellor will be right for you.” | |
| How To Choose A Counsellor | |
| How Couples’ Therapy Can Help End Conflicts | "Marriage and family difficulties account for about half of all visits to psychotherapists, and most therapists who specialize in family therapy work chiefly with couples. The therapist helps the couple work on eliminating mutual misunderstandings, unreasonable expectations, and unstated assumptions that perpetuate conflict," |
| Marriage Counseling & Relationship Guidance | “For at its fundamental core, a functioning marriage or committed relationship exists as a cooperative friendship between two people who consider each other important” |
| Anger Counseling | “Usually this counseling format is called "Anger Management"; I would suggest that you may want to do more than just learn how to manage your anger.” |
| Marriage Counseling, Does It Really Work' | “Despite all the social, financial and health benefits that a good marriage provides, many couples are reluctant to seek marriage counseling at critical early stages of relationship breakdown. What typically occurs, is that one person may be wanting marriage counseling, while the other is resistant to marriage counseling.” |
| How Do I Talk To My Partner About Coming To Counseling | “The other person must understand absolutely that relationships need a team approach: if it's not good for one of you it's not good for both. The relationship will only be good when both of you are happy.” |
| Life Management | "To inform the millions of Americans facing the trauma of divorce, separation, senior care, and dealing with issues affecting the elderly and disabled." |
Emotions
Emotions
Exploring Emotions |
“An anxiety disorder may make you feel anxious most of the time, without any apparent reason. Or the anxious feelings may be so uncomfortable that to avoid them you may stop some everyday activities. Or you may have occasional bouts of anxiety so intense they terrify and immobilize you.” |
| An Introduction to Anxiety Disorders | |
| Psychology Today | "So many issues concerning our emotional well-being, whether they relate to relationship difficulties, family concerns or more serious psychological conditions are clouded by the problems of confusion and stigma. Our site has been designed to cut through these problems by providing easily accessible, well written and timely health information that can be viewed from the privacy of your home and office." |
| Exploring Emotions | "Emotions are a natural way of expressing your feelings. We all have emotions, and they are nothing to be ashamed of. Emotions are a normal part of life. People respond to emotions in all sorts of different ways. Anger, shame, frustration, love, jealousy, and loneliness are all powerful emotions." |
| Understanding Emotions | "Our ability to view situations objectively and thus to understand ourselves and other people depends on balancing and integrating the head and heart. Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand and effectively apply the power of emotions, appropriately channelled as a source of energy, creativity and influence." |
| How Well do you Understand your Emotions? | Part of a series of articles |
| General Page on Emotions | With many links. "Here are a few of the reasons our emotions are important in our lives" |
| How Thoughts Affect Feelings | "The fact that thoughts affect feelings is good news, because we can review our thoughts, talk about them, compare them with other people's thoughts, decide if we agree or disagree with our own thoughts, and so on. We don't have anywhere near as much access to our emotions as we have to our thoughts. " |
| How Does Emotion Affect Our Lives? | "So often we wrongly express anger when we are feeling another emotion, primarily sad or fearful. It is not always a conscious thing, but a reaction to vulnerability that we may be unaware of, unless we make ourselves think about what we are feeling and why." |
| How Do Your Emotions Affect Your Behaviors? | "Negative emotions, such as anger, jealousy and depression, can affect our behavior negatively. However, positive emotions can also negatively affect our behavior, such as allowing ourselves to be abused by someone because we love them, or indulging in unhealthy activities because they make us happy." |
| Yes, We Can Change Our Emotions! | (PDF) "This article is meant to peak your interest in learning more about the possibilities that are available to every one of us if we begin to understand the connections between the whole of us." |
| Do Our Emotions Matter? | (PDF) "Emotions keep us alive, warn us of danger, tell us to flee, help us guard our loved ones, allow us to love and to have hope, give us our relationship to the world and our unique personality and in fact defines the world for us." |
“When considering your depression level remember: you're feeling down and thinking negatively. To realistically estimate the degree of your depression will be a challenge. You'll probably think you are worse off then you really may be.” |
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| Coping with Depression | |
| Depression | “Depression is a common yet serious medical condition that affects both the mind and body. It is a complex illness, creating physical, psychological, and social symptoms.” |
| Depression Health Center | Complete guide from WebMD. "Everyone has felt depressed. Yet the sadness and other symptoms of depression that are intense and last for long periods of time, can signal clinical depression or major depression, a serious medical illness that needs professional care." |
| Depression Center | Complete guide from MedicineNet. "Depression is an illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts, that affects the way a person eats and sleeps, the way one feels about oneself, and the way one thinks about things." |
| Depression | Complete guide from the Mayo Clinic. "Depression symptoms can vary greatly because different people experience depression in different ways. A 25-year-old man with depression may not have the same symptoms as a 70-year-old man, for instance. For some people, depression symptoms are so severe that it's obvious something isn't right. Others may feel generally miserable or unhappy without really knowing why." |
| Depression | Complete guide from National Institute of Health. "Everyone occasionally feels blue or sad, but these feelings are usually fleeting and pass within a couple of days. When a person has a depressive disorder, it interferes with daily life, normal functioning, and causes pain for both the person with the disorder and those who care about him or her. Depression is a common but serious illness, and most who experience it need treatment to get better." |
| Understanding Depression | "A person with severe depression has little or no interest in work or hobbies, and may even have trouble getting out of bed. With treatment and help, you can feel better. Learning how to understand depression – including its signs, symptoms, and causes – is the first step to overcoming the problem." |
| Medical Treatment for Depression |
(PDH) "Antidepressant medications are commonly used to treat depression. Some people have satisfying results with the first medication their doctor prescribes. If an antidepressant does not work well within a reasonable time, do not despair. There are different types of antidepressants, with new ones being introduced regularly." |
| Non-Invasive Treatment For Depression | "Dr. Phil Janicak, a professor of psychiatry at Rush University Medical Center, was the principal investigator for the clinical trials of TMS, which is a system that uses repeated short bursts of magnetic energy introduced through the scalp to stimulate nerve cells in the brain to alleviate major depression." |
| Non-Medical Treatments for Depression | "These Relaxation and Mood Enhancing Tips Can Help You to Shake that Slight Case of the Blues." |
| “For better or for worse, divorce is a very common event these days. Most everyone has been touched by it, either by going through it themselves as a spouse or a child, or knowing someone who has gone through it as a spouse or as a child. Despite widespread familiarity with the effects of divorce, the details of the divorce process are less well known.” | |
| Introduction to Divorce | |
| Baby Boomers, Divorce And Health Care | "Study shows divorced elderly are less likely to get care from their children" |
| Divorce and the Elderly | "While the number of divorces themselves have not increased dramatically, divorce has become more common for the elderly. There are many possible reasons for this. Divorce is becoming more “socially acceptable”, particularly among the older generation for whom divorce has in the past not been an option." |
| Children Of Divorce Less Likely To Care For Elderly Parents | A divorce may have happened more than 30 years ago, but the changes it caused can have a long-lasting effect for the child into adulthood, Davey said. The findings appear in the September issue of Advances in Life Course Research.More specifically, divorce predicted an adult child would be less involved with day-to-day assistance later in life for an aging parent. These activities include the child helping the parent with chores in the home. |
| When Your Elderly Parents Want A Divorce | A case study |
| High-Quality Marriages Help To Calm Nerves | "A University of Virginia neuroscientist has found that women under stress who hold their husbands' hands show signs of immediate relief, which can clearly be seen on their brain scans." |
| Emotional Resilience | “There are so many sources of stress: caring for children, disabled persons and elderly parents, holding down a job, and making time for a social life are all everyday sources of stress. Added to these everyday stresses are extraordinary events such as deaths, serious illnesses, natural disasters and social upheavals that often occur randomly and without warning.” |
| How Long Should You Wait To Date After Divorce? | "Far too many times, people go through divorce and the first thing they want, is to find someone else. It all seems like a good idea at the time, but if you take careful consideration, it makes more sense to wait until the proper time. You’ll save yourself some time and heartache that way, if you just become patient, and wait." |
| Whether to Stay in or Leave a Relationship | "No matter how long you've been in your relationship, the decision whether to stay in or leave your relationship can be one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. " |
| Building Confidence | "Although it can at first seem daunting, starting again after a relationship breakdown can also be an opportunity to make a fresh start and try new things." |
| Depressed People Benefit More From Marriage Than Others | "Depressed singles receive greater psychological benefits from getting married than those who are not depressed, new research shows." |
"People's stress thresholds vary. For some people the pressures of everyday life are stressful, others cope with amazing challenges without feeling stress. A certain amount of stress keeps us active and alert but most people say they are most stressed at the point when they feel they are no longer in control. " |
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| Stress and Anxiety | "Stress can come from any situation or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or anxious. What is stressful to one person is not necessarily stressful to another. Anxiety is a feeling of apprehension or fear. The source of this uneasiness is not always known or recognized, which can add to the distress you feel." |
| Stress Warning Signs and Symptoms | (PDF) "The following table lists some of the common warning signs and symptoms of stress. Use it to identify the symptoms you typically experience when you’re under stress. If you know your red fl ags, you can take early steps to deal with the stressful situation before it – or your emotions – spiral out of control." |
| Stress Management | From the Mayo Clinic. "tress is a normal psychological and physical reaction to the demands of life. Your brain comes hard-wired with an alarm system for your protection. When your brain perceives a threat, your body releases a burst of hormones to fuel your fight-or-flight response. When the threat is gone, your body returns to normal. Unfortunately, the nonstop stress of modern life means that your alarm system rarely shuts off. " |
| How Does Stress Affect You? | From the American Heart Association. “Stress affects each of us in different ways. You may have physical signs (such as tense or sore muscles), emotional signs (such as feeling helpless or depressed) or both.” |
| Stress | "Stress is simply a fact of nature—forces from the outside world affecting the individual. The individual responds to stress in ways that affect the individual as well as their environment." |
| Understanding Stress | "Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, frustrations, and demands. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. Stress isn’t always bad. In small doses, it can help you perform under pressure and motivate you to do your best." |
| Can Stress Actually be Good for You? | "We may talk about cutting the stress from our lives, but we need those precious, powerful fight-or-flight hormones our bodies produce when we're about to be hit by a car or when confronted with an unexpected, needed-it-yesterday deadline at work." |
| Stress is Good for Your Immune System | "Your immune system may benefit from short spurts of stress. The type of stress you may experience when you have to sit an exam could be good for you, says a new study. Long-term stress, on the other hand, is not good for you. If you suffer from continuous stress, the same continuous stress, such as the stress experienced by people with some disabilities, your immune system will suffer." |
| Seniors Dealing with Stress | "Stress is the body's physical, mental, and chemical reaction to circumstances that frighten, excite, confuse, endanger, or irritate us. It can depress us, irritate us, and even make us susceptible to chronic or life-threatening disease.." |
| Posttraumatic Stress Disorder | "Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an emotional illness that develops as a result of a terribly frightening, life-threatening, or otherwise highly unsafe experience. PTSD sufferers re-experience the traumatic event or events in some way, tend to avoid places, people, or other things that remind them of the event (avoidance), and are exquisitely sensitive to normal life experiences (hyperarousal). " |
| Posttraumatic Stress Disorder | "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a debilitating condition that follows a terrifying event. Often, people with PTSD have persistent frightening thoughts and memories of their ordeal and feel emotionally numb, especially with people they were once close to." |
| PTSD Information Center | "The PTSD Information Center contains in-depth information on PTSD and traumatic stress for a general audience. We answer commonly asked questions about the effects of trauma, including basic information about PTSD and other common reactions. You can find out about treatment and coping or view videos to learn more." |
"One of the things that seems desperately unfair to those of us who live with a chronic illness and ongoing symptoms is the impact it can have on friendships or romantic relationships. Many people have difficulty not only maintaining established friendships, but making new friends because their illness keeps them from being continually active and socially involved." |
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| Maintaining Relationships: Managing Chronic Illness and Pain | |
| Disability and Relationships and the Role of Family Support | "Our need for membership in a collective becomes very obvious during acquired health problems and disability, because these experiences present enough threats to personal identity and performance, that even the most individualistic of us needs others and looks outwardly to others for support and validation.." |
| Strengthening a Marriage in the Face of Disability | "Disability strikes millions of Americans, many of whom are of working age and in long-term relationships. While some relationships crumble under the stress that disability causes, others are fortunate enough to flourish in spite of (or even because of) the increased level of attention that must be placed on the disabled partner." |
| Helping Your Spouse Manage Stress | "Unsolved problems give rise to tension. When you are unable to bear the tension, you are under stress. A stressed individual is the person carrying a heavy head load, and is unable to find a place for its unloading. " |
| Coping With Stress for Parents of Children With Sisabilities | "When a child is diagnosed with disabilities, all of the attention is focused on helping the child. But parents also need assistance in coping with stress, their own feelings and frustrations." |
| Disability Support & Understanding | "Newly disabled and need someone to talk to who's been there? Lived with a disability for years and have a wealth of helpful advice to offer? A support group can help. " |
| Illness | "If either partner becomes seriously ill there will undoubtedly be an impact on the relationship; in some cases it can bring a couple closer in facing the adversity together, for others the stress will drive them apart." |
| Chronic Illness and Relationships | "At some point, it seems, anger and resentment will come from those you love. They can never truly understand what it's like to suffer the pain everyday." |
| Introduction to Aging and Geriatrics | “The science of aging indicates that chronic disease and disability are not inevitable. As a result, health promotion and disease prevention activities and programs are an increasing priority for older adults, their families, and the health care system.” |
| Understanding Grief and Death | “Loss is defined as a “separation from, a detachment from something or someone of value.” The degree of the loss and its meaning and value to the individual affect the intensity of a person’s response. Therefore, it is virtually impossible to predict how any one person will respond to a particular loss. But it always causes some change in perception of one’s self or lifestyle, and some type of adaptation or adjustment is required.” |
| Financial Steps To Take After A Spouse's Death | "You'll always have the fond memories, but after the death of a spouse, there are several basic steps you need to take to prevent the memories from being overwhelmed by financial difficulties." |
| How to Care for your Terminally Ill Loved One | "Apart from our own death experience we will never be closer to or understand more, the process of dying than when we are the carer of a fellow human being with a terminal illness. Most often it is our loved one who we will be caring for, making the task even more overwhelming." |
| End-of-Life Decision-Making | "The one area that most of us avoid planning is the end of our life. Yet, if we don't plan, if we don't at least think about it and share our ideas with those we love, others take over at the very time when we are most vulnerable, most in need of understanding and comfort, and most longing for dignity." |
| Dealing with the Death of a Spouse | "Losing this special bond can be a very hard and devastating experience. I cannot imagine losing my husband to death." |
| Death Anxiety | “People fear death: They fear that they will miss out on parts of life they have not managed to live yet. They have concern over those who will survive them; that they will feel pain or will be unable to care for themselves.” |
| Death & Dying | “Whether we acknowledge it or not, most of us fear death. Death remains a great mystery, one of the central issues with which religion and philosophy and science have wrestled since the beginning of human history.” |
| Understanding And Dealing With Grief And The Loss Of Life | "The loss of a life is life’s most stressful event and can cause a major emotional crisis. After the death of someone you love, you experience bereavement, which literally means "to be deprived by death."" |
| "Researchers have long known that caring for an ill or disabled relative is burdensome and stressful to many individuals, and it can result in psychiatric and physical morbidity. These effects are particularly likely among those with high levels of caregiving demands. Caregivers who live with severely disabled care recipients are at particular risk of developing their own health problems and may be at increased risk for mortality." | |
| Is Caregiving a Risk Factor for Mortality? | |
| Caretakers of Ill Spouses Have Greater Risk of Death | "A groundbreaking new study shows that caring for a sick spouse can raise the caretaker's risk of death. For some particularly disabling illnesses -- dementia, in particular -- the toll on the caretaker is worse than the toll of a spouse's death." |
| Taking Care of Others? 7 Ways to Protect Your Own Health | "Perhaps you're a member of the "sandwich generation," people (usually women) in their 30s and 40s who are caring for their parents as well as for their children. Or maybe you're taking care of a sick or disabled spouse, relative or child. In either case, it's especially important that you take care of yourself." |
| Checklists and Forms for Caregivers | "Topics include: housing, money, insurance, planning, recordkeeping, and other end-of-life issues." |
| Well Spouse Association | "To provide emotional peer-to-peer support to the wives, husbands, and partners of the chronically ill and/or disabled. We offer this support through our various programs and events. Our members can share their thoughts and feelings openly with others facing similar circumstances in a supportive, non-judgmental environment." |
| Caregivers Library | "The National Caregivers Library is one of the most extensive libraries for caregivers that exist today. Hundreds of articles, forms, checklists and links to topic-specific external resources are organized into logical categories on the side of each page." |
| Caring From a Distance | "Whether you live across-the-world or an hour away, you and your family face special challenges. Where can you find the local resources they require? How can you, family and friends communicate in an emergency? What can you do to help when you visit? CFAD is here to help." |
| So Far Away | "So Far Away often refers to caregiving for aging parents but, in fact, this booklet offers tips you can use no matter who you are caring for, be it an older relative, family friend, or former neighbor." |
| Senior Sites | "Our goal is to provide a website that FOCUSES on senior citizens and provide UNIQUE information that seniors and their children and caregivers can use." |
| Caregiver.com | "Offers insights, information and inspirations into your role as a family caregiver for aging relatives." |
| Family Caregiver Alliance | "You’ll find a wealth of information on care strategies, stress relief, community resources, family issues and hands-on care. Be sure to also visit our Fact Sheet section for a comprehensive collection of family-friendly publications filled with practical information. For more personal assistance, click on “Ask FCA”. And don’t miss our online Discussion Groups, to keep you connected, 24 hours a day, with other caregivers." |
| Family Caregiver Web | "None of us knows it all, but none of us is alone. Join the family! " |
| Home Care Profile | "Home Care Profile is here to help you find the right Home Care Service. Non-medical personal or companion care or Home Health Care services can help an elderly or disabled person to remain safely in the comfort of their own home for longer. Please use our free and private service to locate a provider that services your area, and use our "Request Info" form to ask questions or schedule a consultation with that particular agency." |
| National Long Term Care Ombudsman Resource Center | "An Ombudsman is an advocate for residents of nursing homes, board and care homes, and assisted living. Ombudsmen provide information about how to find a facility and what to do to get quality care. They are trained to resolve problems. If you want, the ombudsman can assist you with complaints. However, unless you give the ombudsman permission to share your concerns, these matters are kept confidential. Under the federal Older Americans Act, every state is required to have an Ombudsman Program that addresses complaints and advocates for improvements in the long term care system. To find the ombudsman nearest you, contact your State Ombudsman office." |
| National Respite Locator Service | "Helps parents, caregivers, and professionals find respite services in their state and local area to match their specific needs." |
| Caregiving Stress | “Caregiver stress is the emotional and physical strain of caregiving. It can take many forms. For instance, you may feel frustrated and angry taking care of someone with dementia who often wanders away or becomes easily upset or guilty because you think that you should be able to provide better care, despite all the other things that you have to do.” |
| Information for Caregivers | "Help, advice, or just someone who can listen and understand are available for caregivers of the chronically ill." |
| MedLine Plus: Caregivers | "Caregivers are people who take care of other adults, often parents or spouses, or children with special medical needs. Some caregivers are family members; others are paid." |
| Caregiver Information | Medicare information for caregivers. |
| Caregivers | "As our population ages and life expectancy increases, more and more families find themselves not only busy with raising children and juggling demanding careers, but also caring for aging parents. This is the largest population ever to be faced with the dual responsibility of caring for their children and parents at the same time. Whether you are a family in need of assistance, or someone who would like to care for the elderly, much of this site is devoted to helping you in this endeavor." |
| Today's Caregiver | "Caregiver Media Group is a leading provider of information, support and guidance for family and professional caregivers. Our web site includes topic specific newsletters, online discussion lists, back issue articles of Today's Caregiver magazine, chat rooms and an online store. Caregiver Media Group and all of it's products are developed for caregivers, about caregivers and by caregivers. " |
| Assisted Living Source | "Assisted Living Source is here to help you to get the information you need from Assisted Living Facilities, Independent Living, Alzheimer's and memory care, Nursing Homes, Retirement Communities and Home Care services. If you are reading this you are probably in the challenging position of needing an alternative Senior Living option. Please use our free and private service to locate a community in your area and use our "Request Info" form to ask questions or schedule a tour with that particular community." |
| "Suicide among older adults is an important public health problem, all the more sad because there are ways of successfully treating the risk factors such as depression, isolation and pain that are frequently the cause of suicide among the elderly. Elderly Americans make up about 13 percent of the country's population but account for about 20 percent of all suicides." | |
| Fierce Goodbye | |
| Dealing With The Risk Of Suicide | "Suicide can be the result of untreated depression, traumatic experiences, health problems, an injury, or a subtle buildup of events that are stressful or tragic. " |
| Elderly Are At Highest Risk For Suicide | "The elderly are the highest risk population in the country for suicide. But few suicide-prevention programs target them — a result, advocates say, of scarce funding and lack of concern for older Americans." |
| Older Adults: Depression and Suicide Facts | "Depressive disorder is not a normal part of aging. Emotional experiences of sadness, grief, response to loss, and temporary “blue” moods are normal." |
| Suicide and the Elderly: Warning Signs and How to Help | "One of the problems contributing to the high suicide rates in older Americans lies in detection. Health care providers and researchers point out that many older people are uncomfortable talking with others-- especially mental health professionals--about their feelings." |
| National Suicide Prevention Lifeline | "A 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis." |
| Suicide Awareness Voices of Education | "The mission of SAVE is to prevent suicide through public awareness and education, reduce stigma and serve as a resource to those touched by suicide." |
| American Foundation for Suicide Prevention | "We are investing in groundbreaking research, new educational campaigns, innovative demonstration programs and critical policy work. And we are expanding our assistance to people whose lives have been affected by suicide, reaching out to offer support and offering opportunities to become involved in prevention." |
| Suicide and Suicide Prevention | Links to dozens of appropriate sites. |
| Suicide Prevention | From the The National Institute of Mental Health. |
| Also see the Slightly Creaky Long Term Care section. Included is general information, assisted living, nursing home information, and in-home care. |
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| Geriatric Internet Retirement Home | "It happens to the best of us: a feeling of loneliness, insecurity, and helplessness in our older age. Our friends are too wrapped up in their own problems to offer us a helping hand. Or perhaps our husband or wife has recently passed away, and we need to share our feelings but don't know how. This page was created for the geriatric community as an interactive support and informational group. Here you can get in touch with a whole world of people who are experiencing the same feelings you are." |
| Geriatrics | "Geriatric management is likewise complicated by the presence of multiple, simultaneously inter-active problems, which often reach across several domains of life. One must treat not only the immediate illness in the context of several others, but also address their financial and social consequences." |
| Aging, Geriatrics, Home Health, and Hospice | "Caretakers of past generations usually consisted of family members or friends. Today, however, there are more options available, depending on the needs of the individual and family." |
| Aging and Geriatrics | "These podcasts deal with the issues of aging. Some of the topics include living with dementia, depression in older people, and advice for caregivers in an aging population." |
| The Aging Process | "Point and click access for researchers and laypersons to find information on the aging process." |
| The Most Important Problem Senior Citizens Face | "Given the failing economy in America, financial security will be the most important problem for many senior citizens now and in the coming years. With more and more seniors depending on Social Security and Social Security heading for bankruptcy, financial security is a looming disaster." |
| Introduction to Aging and Geriatrics | “The science of aging indicates that chronic disease and disability are not inevitable. As a result, health promotion and disease prevention activities and programs are an increasing priority for older adults, their families, and the health care system.” |
| Older Adults: Depression and Suicide Facts | "Depressive disorder is not a normal part of aging. Emotional experiences of sadness, grief, response to loss, and temporary “blue” moods are normal." |
| Suicide and the Elderly: Warning Signs and How to Help | "One of the problems contributing to the high suicide rates in older Americans lies in detection. Health care providers and researchers point out that many older people are uncomfortable talking with others-- especially mental health professionals--about their feelings." |
An article from the Slightly Creaky Consumer Archives |
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| Providing for Your Heirs | |
| Marriage Finances: Til Death Do Us Part? | "When we got engaged, one of the first things we wanted to do was decide how to keep both our sanity and our finances. Maintain separate accounts? Open a brand new one just for the two of us? Keep everything in baby food jars wrapped in duct tape buried under the house?" |
| Death And Money: Helping Your Family Now In Case Something Happens Later | "There is so much that you can do before a crisis hits to help your family when it does. Here are the things I'm glad I have and the ones I intend to look into." |
| Financial Death Planner | "Your family needs to be taken care of after you die. Use the calculator to find out whether your debts will be taken care of and whether you have enough savings to provide monthly income for your family when you're gone." |
| Financial Steps To Take After A Spouse's Death | "You'll always have the fond memories, but after the death of a spouse, there are several basic steps you need to take to prevent the memories from being overwhelmed by financial difficulties." |
| Allowing Your Emotions To Make Financial Decisions Will Cost You Money | "A few points to remember to ensure you don’t allow your emotions to make financial decisions for you...." |
| Emotion and Stress Cause Consumers to Make Poor Personal Finance Choices | "Most of us have at some point in our lives made a rash decision out of fear that we later regretted and many of us have put off critical financial decisions for fear of making the wrong choice." |
| Keep Your Emotions in Check -- and Out of Your Portfolio | "Stop over-thinking your portfolio. Take a mental "time out" and try some deep-breathing exercises. Do whatever it takes to rein in your caveman brain, because right now, your mind is one of your biggest liabilities -- emotionally and financially." |
| How Your Emotions Affect Your Credit Rating | "Here are a few tips that financial experts suggest will help you harness your emotions in a way that can actually help you to improve your credit rating." |
| Emotions and Money: When to Keep Them Separated | "Human beings aren’t logical, and it doesn’t take a scientist from Vulcan to prove that fact. A corollary to this statement is that human beings do not make logical decisions when it comes to their personal finances." |
| The Five Most Common Ways Couples Disagree About Money |
(PDF) "Most of us have had the occasional heart-to-heart talk with our spouse over family finances. It probably comes as no surprise, then, that arguing about money is one of the most common arguments married couples experience." |
| Emotion and Stress Cause Consumers to Make Poor Personal Finance Choices. | "The fact is most of us have at some point in our lives made a rash decision out of fear that we later regretted and many of us have put off critical financial decisions for fear of making the wrong choice." |
| Do I Need Life Insurance? | "Life insurance has long been a part of estate planning in the United States. Although life insurance does not need to be a part of every person's estate plan, it can be useful, especially for parents of young children and those who support a spouse or a disabled adult or child." |
| Do You Need Term Life Insurance? | "Term life insurance can be purchased for the specific times in your life when you need some extra insurance. Since you are not expected to keep the policy for your entire life, the they are often cheaper than whole life insurance options because there is a smaller chance that your family will actually need to use them." |
| Life Insurance: How Much Coverage do I Need, if Any? | "Life insurance isn’t one of those warm and fuzzy topics that everyone loves to address. Creating a plan to protect your loved one’s finances in the event that you pass away - not so thrilling, yet it is extremely important. The good news is that you may already have it for free through your employer, and even if you don’t, you may not even need it at all." |
| How Much Life Insurance Do You Need? | "If you have a family that's dependent on your income, then you need life insurance. Exactly how much? Truth be told, many of us have too much life insurance — thanks to fast-talking sales reps." |
| Why You Don’t Need Mortgage Life Insurance | "There are several reasons why declining the bank-offered insurance is advisable in favor of an individual life insurance policy..." |
| Funeral Insurance A Good Idea, but Be Cautious | "Funeral insurance is an insurance policy designed to cover any costs directly related to your funeral. The payer may stipulate what costs are to be covered or the funeral insurance policy may pay out a lump sum. Funeral costs covered may include embalming, other cosmetology, flowers, burial plot (or grave space), grave marker (or other memorial) and more." |
| Pros & Cons of Prepaying Your Funeral | "Preplanning your own funeral, while difficult for most of us, can help ease the emotional and financial burden for your survivors at a stressful time. But should you pay in advance for your funeral?" |
Mending Fences
Mending Fences
Types of Disagreements |
"Achieving a more peer like relationship with parents requires attitude adjustments and new ground rules, but some things don’t change. After all these years, your parents can still find ways to throw you off-balance and resurrect old doubts. They’re your biggest fans and harshest critics--and you continue to want their approval, no matter how old, how independent or how successful you are. In short, your parents’ opinions remain extremely important." |
| Can Adult Children And Their Parents Become Friends? | |
| Disagreements Between Parent and Offspring: | " It is common for parents and their offspring to disagree and argue. As parents, after such arguments we often feel that we let down our children, and were not competent enough to guide them through difficult moments: "Why can’t I get across to my kids? Why don’t they listen to my advice?"" |
| How To Disagree With Your Adult Child Without Straining Your Relationship | "Disagreements between you and your adult children are inevitable and unavoidable. Only in a perfect, make-believe world do families live in total harmony. However, that doesn't mean that you must give in to create peace between each other, or completely avoid a compromise just because you are the parent." |
| How to Work Out Parenting Disagreements Over Discipline | "There are many disagreements between spouses and some of these are caused by disagreeing on the discipline route that you should take when your child is in trouble. Some times one spouse feels that the discipline was to harsh and the other may feel that it wasn't harsh enough. You both want what is best for your children and yet it is hard to come up with a compromise on the situation." |
| How To Work Out Parenting Disagreements Between Spouses | Index to eight articles. |
| Family Acculturation | "Beyond cultural groups and individuals, acculturation processes and outcomes also take place in families, often with evidence of differences between spouses and between parents and children, in both their preferred ways of acculturating and in the adaptations that are achieved." |
| Disagreeing With A Spouse | "You're going to disagree with your spouse and you may be shocked to find out that your spouse is going to disagree with you as well. About a lot of things. Probably on a daily, if not a semi-daily basis. This is a normal and natural part of married life." |
| Understanding and Resolving Conflicts | Three pages with links to related articles. |
| Dealing with the Five Most Common Ways Couples Disagree About Money |
(PDF) "Most of us have had the occasional heart-to-heart talk with our spouse over family finances. It probably comes as no surprise, then, that arguing about money is one of the most common arguments married couples experience." |
| Prevent a Domestic Disagreement From Escalating to an Argument | "Disagreements and arguments happen to all couples. Talking in advance about how to deal with this inevitable bump in your relationship is priceless." |
| "Anyone who has ever been victimized—and that includes survivors of crime, accidents, childhood abuse, political imprisonment, warfare, and so on—must decide whether or not to forgive the perpetrator. There can be no middle ground to this decision: either you decide to forgive the person who hurt you, or you hold on to bitterness and anger. " | |
| Forgiveness | |
| Forgiveness: How To Let Go Of Grudges And Bitterness | "When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward." |
| The Art and Science of Forgiveness | "Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else. " |
| Handling Forgiving and Forgetting | "Forgiving is allowing another person to be human for faults, mistakes, or misdeeds. Forgetting is putting these behind you; they are no longer brought up and no longer remain a barrier to your relationship." |
| What are Apology and Forgiveness? | "Apology and forgiveness are two sides of the same emotional coin. They reflect the constructive ways the oppressors and the oppressed in an intractable conflict can come to grips with the pain and suffering the conflict produced." |
| Sorry I Hurt You | Taking responsibility and saying that you are sorry about something you did wrong is one way you can let go of guilt. |
| Forgive And Be Forgiven | "By the act of forgiveness we release the other person from a debt, an obligation to make whole something that has been injured or taken from us, whether in terms of property or from ourselves, in terms of our identity or self worth or our relationships with other persons. So, to begin with, "I forgive you" means, "I release you."" |
| Why You should Forgive Them | "Forgiving a wrongdoer is difficult because we feel that we are letting the wrongdoer off the hook. A victim tends to think, "How can I ever forgive someone who has hurt me so much." Forgiving does not equal letting someone off the hook. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to condone what someone has done to you or ever having to tolerate someone's wrongful behavior. " |
| How to Convince Someone to Forgive You | "We are human beings and we are not perfect. As a matter of fact, recent shocking discoveries have been about human nature through dream interpretation. Thanks to dangerous research that has investigated unknown regions of the human psychic sphere, we know that human beings are very violent animals that cannot control their behavior." |
| "In recent years, reconciliation has also become an important matter for people who approach conflict resolution from a secular perspective. For them, the need for reconciliation grows out of the pragmatic, political realities of any conflict resolution process." | |
| Reconciliation | |
| Basic Actions for Reconciliation of Friends | " There is a sad tendency loosing touch with people as time goes by so older people seem to have less friends" |
| Resolving Conflict In Relationships | "One of the hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. While a good and fair fight can clear the air and help you to feel closer to your lover, many fights are just hurtful and destructive." |
| Resolving Fights and Disagreements | "Is it normal to fight in a relationship? Some people feel as if an argument, any argument, is a sign that a relationship is not healthy. Other people feel as if a relationship without argument is a relationship without a pulse. " |
| An Article On Resolving Conflict In Relationships | "With most fights, there are layers of what we mean, feel, intend, hope for, and believe, and what we actually say. We may only say a little of how we feel, or we may even say the opposite of how we're feeling on a much deeper level than the surface. Problems arise when we don't come from the deeper levels. " |
| Family Therapy |
"In a permissive, self-indulgent society, there is less and less use for self-discipline and self-restraint. When anything goes, nothing means anything, and all paths lead nowhere. And right in the middle of nowhere you are sure to find anxiety, depression, and distress." |
| Productive Problem Solving | Tips for productive problem solving |
| How to Forgive Someone | "It's likely you've felt hurt by people in your life by something they said, did or did not do to you. Most probably, you have not always forgiven these people. In fact, you have probably harbored a deep resentment toward them for the way they hurt you. But now, you recognize that it's not good for you to harbor such resentments since they tend to bring you down and depress you." |
| Conflist Resolution Information Source | The University of Colorado Conflict Information Consortium. "With its primary focus on difficult and intractable conflicts, the Consortium has pioneered efforts to use rapidly advancing information technologies to provide citizens in all walks of life with the information that they need to deal with conflicts more constructively. The Consortium sees such efforts to enhance and mobilize the skills of the general population as critical to efforts to deal with complex, society-wide conflicts." |
| How Parents And Adult Children Can Rebuild Relationships | "Love and respect are the most important parts in any relationship. With a healthy dose of each, parents can move past their role as disciplinarian and into their new role as friend and confidant. 'Reaching a comfortable adult-to-adult friendship is a growing, changing process, and it's never too late to make new progress.'" |
Friendships Outside of Marriage
Friendships Outside of Marriage
| Defining Friendship | "Americans’ circle of close confidants has shrunk dramatically in the past two decades and the number of people who say they have no one with whom to discuss important matters has more than doubled" |
| Americans’ Circle Of Friends Is Shrinking | |
| Marriage And The Importance Of Keeping Friendships Alive | "If you have married well and married wisely your spouse may likely be your best friend, someone you always turn to in times of hardship and times of joy." |
| Can Friends Sometimes be Toxic to Your Marriage? | A collection of articles. |
| Emotional Affair or Friendship? | "In a marriage, what are the limits for friendship with a member of the opposite sex? Who sets these limits? What is the difference between a friendship and an emotional affair?" |
| Why Married Women Need Friends | "Girlfriends are vital for all women. Female friendships are precious commodities for married women. Whether their girlfriends are married or single, mothersor childless, they are the people that we find our precious moments of reprieve with. " |
| Dynamics Of Friends And Friendships In Marriage | "As a couple you should desire to establish new friendship together especially with other couples that would be role models and able to provide support and encouragement. What happens to your old friends then? Marriage does establish limits on your involvements with them especially if they are still single. You cannot have your usual girl’s or guy’s night outs without the express consent of your spouse. You would be looking for big trouble by keeping close relationships with friends of the opposite sex." |
| Keeping Friends after Marriage! | "Today, most people have many friends, but in other words they can be called colleagues, school mates, club mates etc. And if you carefully observe, there are only few who you can call Friends. So how can you keep your relationship with them and yet not hurt your spouse. Also your spouse has friends, how are you going to handle them?" |
| Marriage and Your Single Friends | "When you get married you sometimes feel as though you're going to be giving up your single friends. . The weekends you once spent in their company will give way to spending every weekend with your spouse, and although this tends to be the norm in the early years of the marriage. it can sometimes cause resentments. " |
From Psychology Today. Dozens af articles on many topics. |
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| Relationship Center | |
| Sibling Relationships | Collection of articles |
| Adult Sibling Relationships | "When siblings leave home to establish their own lives, it is not unusual for their relationship to lapse during the early and middle years of adulthood. Often, what brings siblings together in later life is the need to care for their parents. Brothers and sisters who have not had much contact for years may find themselves working together to coordinate care for one or both of their parents. " |
| Adult Sibling Rivalry | "The new view holds that conflict is not the natural state of sibling relationships. Still, for a third of us, discord sown early endures for a lifetime." |
| Attachment Styles and Relational Development in Adult Sibling Relationships | 40 pages - must adjust print size. Academic study. "The present investigation aimed to further the understanding of adult sibling dyads by assessing how their interdependence, breadth/depth of interactions, commitment, and predictability related to the attachment styles of the adult siblings themselves as explained by Attachment Theory. " |
| Grandparents & Extended Family | "Your baby's birth doesn't just change you into a parent; it changes your parents into grandparents and other relatives into cousins, aunts, and uncles." |
| Coping With Your Partner's Family | "Joining someone’s family as a result of a serious long-term relationship is not always easy. You choose your partner, not his or her family, although you do have to have a relationship with their family as well." |
| How to Improve Relationships with In-laws | "Just because you and your spouse have a good relationship does not mean that you will automatically have a good relationship with your in-laws. Some relationships just will not work unless you really make an effort to improve them. Here are some helpful steps to improve the relationship with your in-laws." |
| Daughter-In-Law / Mother-in-Law Relationship | "In most cultures the mother-in-law / daughter-in-law relationship is expected to be filled with thorny tensions" |
| The Six Laws of In-Laws | "Law Number One: Every family has a different way of doing things." |
| 8 Tips For Improving Your Relationship With In-Laws | "Handling in-laws can be tricky for most every couple. Let’s face it, you are an outsider to a family system that has very established rules and dynamics. But to be fair, your spouse has the same battle with your family." |
| Getting On with the In-Laws | "We've all heard the jokes, but for some people the relationship they have with their partner's parents is far from funny. Relationship psychotherapist Paula Hall looks at how to overcome or work around your differences." |
| Building Enduring Relationships with Stepkids |
"Stepparents will have instant roles and new relationships with possibly confused or resentful children. With the proper blend of patience, communication, and support from your spouse, being a stepparent can be a rewarding and positive adventure." |
| A Guide for Stepparents | "Stepfamilies, also known as blended families, are more of a norm now than ever. At least one-third of all children in the U.S. will be part of a stepfamily before they reach age 18." |
| 10 Tips for New Step Parents | "Step-families are at greater risk of breaking apart than any other family unit but the following ten tips aim to help sidestep a few elephant traps." |
| Yours, Mine & Ours | "Anyone who has taken on the responsibility of being a stepparent knows how challenging and difficult step-parenting can sometimes be. Depending on the ages and number of children involved, becoming a blended family and learning how to be a good stepparent to children not biologically your own can either make or break your relationship with your spouse, since statistics of divorce amongst second or third marriages don’t offer much encouragement." |
| Blending Families: Surviving the Step-Parent Role | "How do you grow a relationship with another person’s child who, after marriage, is considered one of your own?" |
"Still aren't sure about online personal services and online dating services? That is fine. Make sure that you to go through a couple free internet personal ad and internet dating sites before making a final judgement." |
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| Internet Dating and Online Personals Tips | |
| Finding Your Perfect Partner | "It's been our experience that we attract the people into our lives who show us what we need to heal within ourselves, new possibilities for the future, and the contrast of what we want and don't want in our lives." |
| Beware of Online Dating Scams! | "Online dating is not without its share of unscrupulous individuals who use the Internet for deceptive practices. Quite simply, they engage in online dating scams." |
| Beware Physical, Financial Dangers of I-Dating | "For many of the millions of Americans who have tried online dating, it is an exciting new way to look for the partner of their dreams. But there are potential physical and financial dangers lurking, too." |
| Don't Dismiss Online Relationships as Fantasy | "Anyone who has been affected by online love knows the emotions don't turn on when we log on and turn off when we log off." |
| Being Smart About Online Relationships | "Online relationships can be richly rewarding. They can also be dangerous. Be smart about your relationships online and you'll avoid the dangers and reap the rewards." |
| 5 Tips for Online Relationships | "Internet dates start differently than regular because you are basing your "attraction" on your chats and e-mail conversations rather than physical traits." |
| Free Online Dating Sites | "As far as we know, our site is the only one on the net which is truly dedicated to 100% free online dating services. Our goal is to be the biggest, most comprehensive and most useful dating directory of totally free sites, free trials and commercial sites." |
| Reviews of the Best Senior Dating Sites | "The following dating sites are dedicated to men and women over 50 who are looking for love on the net. Many younger people, particularly women, searching for older partners are also members of the following sites, so not everyone you encounter will be over 50 years of age. All are free to join as standard members." |
| Seniors Dating | "Who says you have to give up notions of love and dating when you become a senior citizen? Your desire for companionship and intimacy doesn't automatically diminish just because of your age." |
| Suddenly Single Seniors and Dating | "Loneliness and a desire for companionship drives many to pursue partners online and through the posting of personal ads. The good news is that you are not alone. Losing a partner and finding yourself suddenly single from the age of 50 on is a fact of life for millions of people who are also looking for a new love." |
| Senior Dating | "For Senior Citizens their children; caregivers." |
| How to Overcome First Date Anxiety | "A first date is one of the most nerve-wracking aspects of dating at any age. If you are 50+ and just starting to date again after a few years or a few decades, however, the uncertainty about where to go, what to wear, and what to talk about can seem almost insurmountable." |
| Dating for Beginners | "This site contains a large number of dating-related articles, sometimes written from a female perspective, sometimes a little "tongue-in-cheek" —but always with a good dose of common sense." |
"For some people being single is a blast. But for others it can be genuinely lonely and miserable. So this is a divided question. We as individuals can only answer this question honestly to represent how we feel about being by ourselves and not having a significant other or by having that special someone with us." |
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| Staying Single – Is it a Blessing or a Pain? | |
| The Pros And Cons Of Staying Single | "‘Marriage is like a mouse trap. Those outside it are craving to get into it. And those inside it are craving to get out.’" |
| When it Pays to Stay Single | "Is there a time when being single is more financially desirable?" |
| 101 Reasons to Stay Single | "1. Everything in your house is yours. 39. No one else's annoying (or disgusting) habits to deal with at home." |
| 8 Reasons For Staying Single | "You're single -- a heat-seeking bachelor, committed to no one in particular, able to party like John Belushi and sleep until noon with no one underfoot to tell you to do otherwise. It's a great life, and why shouldn't it be?" |
| How Long Should You Wait To Date After Divorce? | "Far too many times, people go through divorce and the first thing they want, is to find someone else. It all seems like a good idea at the time, but if you take careful consideration, it makes more sense to wait until the proper time. You’ll save yourself some time and heartache that way, if you just become patient, and wait." |
| "The first study to observe how gays and lesbians interact with their partners during conversations (monitoring facial expressions, vocal tones, emotional displays and physical reactions like changes in heart rate) wasn't published until 2003, even though such studies have long been a staple of hetero-couple research." | |
| Are Gay Relationships Different? | |
| How to Have a Healthy Gay Relationship | "While minds open more every day in America, having a gay relationship can be extremely difficult. Not only do gay couples face all of the normal relationship pressures, they also face pressures from society in general." |
| Relationships & Homosexuality | Collection of articles from Psychology Today Magazine. |
| Gay/Lesbian Relationships Site | Links to articles |
| Lesbian & Gay Rights: Relationships | From the ACLU. "Since the first marriage lawsuit for same-sex couples in 1972, the ACLU has been at the forefront of both legal and public education efforts to secure marriage for same-sex couples and win legal recognition for LGBT relationships. " |
| The American Gay Rights Movement: A Timeline | "This timeline provides information about the gay rights movement in the United States from 1924 to the present: including the Stonewall riots; the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy; the first civil unions; the legalization of same-sex marriage in Massachusetts and Connecticut; and more." |
| Gay Marriage: The Arguments and the Motives | "More than half of all people in the United States oppose gay marriage, even though three fourths are otherwise supportive of gay rights. This means that many of the same people who are even passionately in favor of gay rights oppose gays on this one issue." |
| Homophobia | "Homophobia describes hostility or fear of gay people and homosexuality, but it is not limited to this specifically. For example someone might be called homophobic if they dislike gay people; or if someone is violent towards a gay person they could also be described as homophobic." |
| Homophobia: The Fear Behind The Hatred | "Homophobia is widespread in America, far more widespread than most heterosexuals realize, and it is far more subtle, too. The discrimination it inspires touches the lives of many Americans, not just gay Americans, but all Americans. And America pays a very dear price for it." |
| The Campaign to End Homophobia | "We are a multicultural group focusing on learning about the relationships between homophobia/heterosexism and other forms of oppression and developing personal, cultural, and institutional strategies to educate ourselves and others. " |
| Gay Christians Online | "Advice, articles, information, encouragement, affirmation, positive lifestyle, books, links, poetry, music, and more." |
| "In the next 20 years the number of elderly drivers (persons 70 & over) is predicted to triple in the United States. As age increases, older drivers generally become more conservative on the road. Many mature drivers modify their driving habits (for instance to avoid busy highways or night-time driving) to match their declining capabilities. However, statistics show that older drivers are more likely than younger ones to be involved in multi-vehicle crashes, particularly at intersections." | |
| Seniors at the Wheel | |
| Elderly Drivers: What Are The Dangers? | "Recent travel surveys, from the past fifteen years, show an increasing number of older people are currently licensed to drive. These drivers are behind the wheel more than their counterparts of fifteen years ago." |
| Caregivers Worry About Holidays & Older Drivers | "An elderly loved one may choose to drive no matter what anyone else thinks of his or her ability, including a doctor. " |
| When to Put the Brakes On Elderly Drivers | "Telling elderly drivers that it may be time to stop driving can be one of the most difficult milestones for caregivers. Driving represents freedom and independence for the elderly — the ability to visit friends, go to the movies and shop — without relying on anyone else." |
| How to Evaluate Elderly Driving Skills | "As people age, their reflexes and abilities also decline, meaning danger for loved ones all around. It's essential to evaluate elderly people's driving skills periodically as they age and not wait for an accident." |
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